Consultation for parents “How to overcome a child’s shyness and insecurity”
Consultation for parents
“How to overcome a child’s shyness and uncertainty”
1. Object of consultation :
parents of pupils.
2. Topic of consultation:
“How to overcome a child’s shyness and insecurity”
3. Purpose of consultation
: to form parents’ ideas about the impact of a child’s shyness and uncertainty on educational success.
4. Consultation objectives:
a) establish psychological contact with parents;
b) discuss with parents the problem of the influence of shyness and uncertainty on the student’s educational success;
c) contribute to the formation in parents of a desire to help their own child overcome shyness and uncertainty;
d) discuss with parents ways to overcome the child’s shyness and uncertainty at home and at school.
5. Consultation plan:
1) Greeting;
2) Main part;
a) The theoretical aspect of the emergence of shyness and uncertainty;
b) Questions asked to parents;
c) Questions that parents have;
d) Memo for parents on overcoming shyness and self-doubt in their children.
3) Conclusion.
Contents of the consultation
(supporting concepts, questions, conversation structure).
Greetings:
Hello! I would like to conduct a consultation with you on the topic “How to overcome a child’s shyness and insecurity.”
Main part:
Almost every person experiences a feeling of fear in their life. Some people are afraid of heights, others are afraid of snakes. But this can be avoided in life. What about those who are afraid of people? First of all, this applies to shy people and insecure children. They feel insecure with their peers during recess and even more so in class. Such children may know all the educational material of the lesson, but are afraid to raise their hand, answer in front of the class, afraid to make a mistake.
Often teachers who work with such students get the impression that they have low intellectual potential, a narrow outlook, and undeveloped learning skills. A child who subtly senses the teacher’s attitude toward himself becomes withdrawn, closed, stops communicating with peers, and tries to run home from school as quickly as possible. Gradually, this state of affairs forms his low status in the team.
A bleak picture, isn't it?
(Parents' answers)
And if he does not receive support and attention at home, the situation can turn into a tragedy.
(Parents' questions)
Shyness is a flexible concept; The more closely we look, the more varieties we see. Therefore, even before we begin to figure out what to do with it, it doesn’t hurt to learn more about it.
The Oxford English Dictionary reports that the first written use of the word "shy" was after the birth of Christ and meant "easily frightened." “To be shy” means to be “difficult to approach because of timidity, caution, or mistrust.” A shy person is “apprehensive and disinclined to meet or have contact with any particular person or thing.” “Impressive, timid, reluctant to assert his rights,” a shy person may be “prone to solitude or secretive due to lack of self-confidence” or due to fear of harassment, his antipode, “doubtful, suspicious, “dark” personality.”
(Parents' questions)
Shyness occurs when a child concentrates on what others, especially strangers, think about him. He is afraid that he will not meet other people's expectations and will be rejected. Tension affects his physiological state. He blushes, speaks haltingly and quickly, and becomes clumsy.
4 reasons for shyness:
1. Children are more sensitive and impressionable to this behavior and react sharply to any changes and conflicts. Therefore, any careless word or unpleasant situation can make them withdraw into themselves. Often such children grow up in families where parents try to constantly control their behavior.
2. Deprived of freedom, the child loses self-confidence and independence.
3. Endless criticism is also the reason for the formation of shyness. When children are criticized too often, they stop doing anything to avoid making mistakes and being pressured. It is more difficult if critical parents also compare the child with a more successful brother or friend.
4. And finally, children can simply copy the behavior of their parents. If there is a shy father or mother in the family, then the child simply will not have an exemplary example symbolizing self-confidence.
Memo for parents.
Here are some rules to follow when interacting with your shy child.
1. Praise your child for achievements that were achieved through hard work and perseverance.
2. Condemn not the child, but his unworthy actions.
3. Set feasible goals for your child and evaluate their achievement.
4. Do not ignore any child’s efforts to overcome self-doubt.
5. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your child, give them the opportunity to speak out and share their painful issues.
6. Do not prevent your child from making mistakes, do not replace his life experience with yours.
7. Do not instill in your child fear and apprehension towards yourself.
8. Ask your child if he doesn’t tell you anything, do it tactfully and warmly.
9. Rejoice in his victories over himself.
10. Be there for him if he needs it!
