We offer you our list of necessary and useful things for kindergarten
1. Clothes
Clothes don't have to be expensive . So that you don’t have to worry too much, clothes for kindergarten shouldn’t be very expensive. A child can get dirty both while eating independently and during creative activities. This should not become a reason for reprimands and complaints against the child or teacher.
Clothes should be easy to put on. With a minimum number of buttons, buttons, fasteners, functional bows. It is optimal for the child to be able to put it on independently.
Clothes must be signed. At least for the first sets, for the first time, while children are learning to dress, learning to put clothes in their locker, it is better to have clothes signed or marked. On the Internet you can order special thermal stickers that are glued to clothes with an iron, and over time, when washed, they come off well from the clothes. Over time, the teacher will tell you whether you need to do this further or whether it’s no longer worth it.
We only signed clothes when we went to the State Police Station. In the group for 2.5 years of visiting, not a single thing was lost without a signature. The teachers simply make sure that the children put their clothes in their lockers.
Change of clothes. always in his locker , starting with panties. Anything can happen in a day.
The child went to kindergarten - typical mistakes of parents during the adaptation period. consultation (junior group)
A child’s admission to kindergarten and the child’s adaptation is one of the hectic stages, both for the child and for the whole family.
The adaptation period is a serious test for young children. From a familiar family environment they find themselves in new conditions, which inevitably entails changes in behavioral reactions, sleep and appetite disorders.
In order for the adaptation period to be as painless as possible, we suggest that you familiarize yourself with a number of typical mistakes parents make during the baby’s adaptation period.
1. Underestimation of the importance of the adaptation period, sudden immersion in the preschool environment.
2. Violation by parents of the principle of consistency and systematicity. If these principles are not followed, it will be more difficult for the child to get used to the preschool during the adaptation period.
3.Sudden disappearance when saying goodbye. With a sudden disappearance, the child develops mistrust and fear. Come up with a farewell ritual that will be repeated every day.
4.Power mismatch. Develop your child's chewing skills in advance. Try not to feed “canned” baby food or pureed food for a long time.
5. Inconsistency of the daily routine. Getting used to getting up early and taking a nap during the day, even before entering kindergarten, will help avoid additional whims and stress caused by lack of sleep and overwork.
6. Failure to comply with the unity of requirements at home and preschool education. Violation of personal hygiene rules, feeding the child on the go, in front of the TV, falling asleep while rocking.
7. Inattention to socialization. Before attending preschool, the child should have experience of being separated from his parents for several hours. Prepare in advance for communication with other children and adults.
8. Superimposition of crises. The beginning of a visit to kindergarten coincides with a move, a change in family composition, or the birth of another child.
9.Parents’ unpreparedness for a child’s negative reaction to a preschool institution. A child's crying during adaptation is normal. Parents' unpreparedness for their child's negative reaction further aggravates the situation. The child needs time to cope with the loss of the pleasures of home life.
10.Excessive anxiety, preoccupation. First of all, parents need to change their internal state and attitude towards kindergarten.
And in conclusion: Kindergarten up to three years of age is justified by the need to free up the mother to go to work. For communication and socialization, kindergarten is needed no earlier than three years.
Good luck!
The child went to kindergarten - typical mistakes of parents during the adaptation period.
And now more about what kind of clothes a child will need in kindergarten.
- Underwear - panties and a T-shirt;
- Tights;
- Socks;
- Short sleeve T-shirts;
- T-shirts or sweatshirts with long sleeves;
- Shorts, panties, skirt, sundress or dress (choose the one you need according to the gender of the child:) )
- Warm blouse;
- Pajamas (in the cold season, pants + a long-sleeved jacket, in warm weather, shorts and a T-shirt or T-shirt);
- Clothes for walking depending on the weather;
- Clothes for sports activities are usually dark shorts, a light T-shirt and socks, but it is better to find out for sure from the teachers in the kindergarten.
- Clothes for music lessons - here it is also better to check with the teachers. We have the same physical education uniform for boys, and a T-shirt and skirt for girls.
- Festive/elegant clothes for matinees. This issue should also be clarified with teachers closer to the holidays - because... In some kindergartens, costume training or thematic performances are held during the holidays, and teachers ask children to dress the children in outfits of certain colors.
There is contact!
Show initiative in interacting with the teacher.
Establish a good and constructive relationship with your teacher. Seek advice and consultation as often as possible. This always increases the self-esteem of the interlocutor and makes him like you. No one knows your baby better than you. Tell the teacher about the baby’s individual characteristics: how affectionately you call him at home, what the child likes, how he falls asleep, what games he prefers to play. The more initial information about your baby you provide to the teacher, the easier it will be for him to choose an individual approach to the baby. If something bothers you in your child’s behavior, consult with the teacher on how best to proceed in this situation. Listen to his advice. Each teacher has his own techniques and secrets on how to help a child adapt more easily to kindergarten or cope with a particular situation. Try to clearly formulate for yourself what you want your child to be like: what he should know, be able to do, what he should strive for, what qualities he should have. The teacher’s advice would also be useful here. Find out from the teacher what educational program the kindergarten operates in, what additional educational and health services can be provided to your child in the kindergarten. You can also discuss the equipment of the group with the teacher. Find out what educational games, manuals, and sports equipment are needed, and offer your help in purchasing them.
The amount of clothing a child needs for kindergarten.
Specific clothing , such as pajamas, uniform for classes, minimum one set. We bring it to the garden on Monday and pick it up to wash on Friday.
Clothes for everyday wear . For us, this option has become optimal: 5-6 blouses (a new one every day + one is always in the shift) + 5-6 pairs of tights/socks (new every day + one in the shift) + 2-3 skirts or 2-3 sundresses. We dress one, one on shift and one at home as a replacement.
With so many clothes, the child is clean and fresh in the garden every day, and on Friday or Saturday we do one big wash for everything.
Clothes for walking. Minimum one set. But if you know some of the child’s special needs, you may need spare pants for walking, a spare hat or spare mittens/gloves.
Shoes for kindergarten
- Replacement shoes for the group - these can be textile shoes or sandals or leather shoes or sandals. They should be the size of a child, be comfortable and have good ventilation, because... The child spends almost the whole day in these shoes!
- For physical education classes it will be either Czech shoes or light sneakers - the teacher will tell you in more detail.
- For music lessons they usually ask for Czech shoes.
- For walking , wear weather-appropriate outdoor shoes.
Remember, a group needs replacement shoes even in summer!
How to store all this in the garden and how to take it to kindergarten.
We organize it like this: The child has his own backpack for kindergarten. On Monday we put there: spare clothes (skirt, jacket, tights, socks, panties, a bag for dirty clothes), clean pajamas, a basic skirt or sundress, sports uniform and uniform for music classes.
On Friday we take this entire set home in our backpack. If a change of dirty clothes appears during the week, we also take them home, replacing them with clean ones as needed.
During the week, a change of clothes is stored in a backpack, which hangs in the closet all week. We put everything else into pockets in a special organizer for lockers in kindergartens. A compartment for sportswear, a compartment for music lessons, a pocket for handkerchiefs, hairpins and elastic bands. Pajamas in the bedroom under the pillow.
We take shoes home only when there is a real need to clean them, but this happens no more than once every 3-4 months.
This is a more or less standard list of things that a child will need in kindergarten. However, it is best to additionally consult with teachers before purchasing, because they know exactly the features of the microclimate in the garden, the regime features (for example, there are gardens where children sleep without pajamas, there are kindergartens where it is hot in groups at any time of the year, and there are, on the contrary, where it is always cool) and the wishes of the teachers.
Child in kindergarten
Parents need to know how the child behaves in a group, does he play with other children, does he get along easily with peers, can he fulfill basic requirements? What does the child need help with, what can be corrected at home? In most cases, teachers are always ready to share such information with parents. Only the parents themselves are not always interested in this... It’s a pity. After all, the most successful final formation of personality with the help of kindergarten will be only when both in the group and in the family the requirements are the SAME.
For example, if a teacher teaches children to clean up after themselves, and the mother tells the child at home, “Leave it, then I’ll clean it up,” the child will behave the same way in the kindergarten, citing the fact that his mother allowed him to do so. If careful behavior at meals is accepted in the group, and at home the child is allowed to eat almost with his hands, then conflicts with the teacher and with the child’s group mates are guaranteed. Then soon the “I don’t want to go to kindergarten” will begin, whims and so on...
Or another situation. The kindergarten teacher actively instilled in children the skills of conflict-free communication; in particular, disputes were not allowed to be resolved with fists. Strictly speaking, this is at least dangerous - a fight can end in injury, and this is neither useful for children nor necessary for the teacher, as a responsible person. And then a boy (of a rather large build) appeared in the group and began to bully everyone. Someone calls him a name (which happens all the time in kindergarten) - without saying a word, he turns around and pushes or punches him in the face.
And one day, on an evening walk, he “dealt with” a boy from the junior group in the same way. who accidentally pushed him turned around and poked the kid in the eye with his fist. The baby fell and cried; The teacher sternly reprimanded the offender and placed him alone away from the children.
And then, as they say, as in the movies, the grandmother of this fighter goes after the child, sees her beloved grandson in tears - and hawks at the teacher: “What have you done, you brought the child to tears, he is nervous, impressionable, he can’t do this.” “How dare you, I’ll complain about you to the manager...”
Here it should be noted that the grandmother was young-looking, athletic - and all so, so to speak, intensely aggressive. In the conversation, it turned out that it was the grandmother who taught her grandson to react with his fists to all insults (even unexpected ones): “Of course, in your garden, anyone can offend a child. So I teach him to stand up for himself!” The teacher reasonably noted that not only is it uncivilized in principle to respond to words with fists, and the child will not learn to communicate adequately, besides, the boy is large, he cannot calculate his strength, and the teacher does not intend to be responsible for the injuries caused to him... that the grandmother shouted that the teacher was paid money for this, and the grandmother would not allow her grandson to be offended! She took the child and proudly left.
It is clear that the grandmother was outright wrong. It later emerged that she has a “naughty” daughter, the boy’s mother, who, together with her husband, does not want to follow the lead of her overly domineering mother. So the grandmother switched to her grandson - and, as it were, transferred all her internal proactive aggression to him, teaching the boy to hit without understanding it. It is clear that it will be very difficult for the teacher to retrain the boy - except through openly disciplinary methods, but the child may well complain to his grandmother that he is being oppressed in the group, and everything will go on again... Moreover, it is clear that they will soon stop treating this child well and group mates, and (with all her pedagogical objectivity) the teacher herself. By the way, the conflict ended with the grandmother taking the child away from this kindergarten altogether - they say, we’ll somehow survive without you until school! But what will happen to this child at school, the grandmother prefers not to think...
...In general, a very important indicator of a child’s adaptation in a group is that he does not stand out from the crowd in a negative way. At the same time, I am not at all calling for children to be raised as identical cogs (as in that kindergarten where all the children sat with their hands on their knees): each child has the right to stand out in the group, but in his own way. Some can dance, some can sing, some can draw, and some can dress faster than anyone else... As a rule, a good teacher does not suppress this and does not engage in leveling. But becoming a general outcast or a silent quiet person is not good for the child. In the end, this is exactly why he was brought to kindergarten, so that he could learn to actively communicate!
An example that seems to look funny: one fairly respectable dad enrolled his child in an ordinary kindergarten. Involuntarily, the child was treated a little differently than the other children in the group, but the father himself actively suppressed this attitude: “Don’t single out my child, please don’t pit him against the team!” As a matter of fact, the teachers soon realized this themselves. But nevertheless, the child, being a little younger than the rest of the kids in the group, did not join the team too quickly. And then one spring evening, dad comes to the garden to pick up his child. The children are all exploring the first puddles on a walk, and his child is standing next to the teacher and looking at his own shoes. The parent came up and playfully made a “claim”: “Well, what are you doing here, all the children are picking around in the dirt, but why is mine standing here? Well, tell me, why don’t you pick around in the dirt with everyone else?!”
By the way, some parents initially admonish their child “Don’t get into the mud!” But keep in mind that the teacher will not allow you to act out like a pig, and becoming a child like his mother’s good boy, who does not play with children because he is afraid of getting his hands dirty, is also not good for the child.
And again, this is precisely why it is recommended to send a child who already “talks” to kindergarten, because after kindergarten it is necessary to discuss with the child what happened to him in the group. Be interested first of all in the child’s successes, his new knowledge and achievements. Praise him for any results he shows. During a lesson in kindergarten, you learned a song and the child sang it to you - great; Some children’s drawings or applications are displayed in the group - look at where your child’s work is, show interest in his creativity. Not to mention the fact that children often give gifts to their parents during classes - they draw, sculpt, glue something. And you shouldn’t immediately throw it in the trash in front of your child’s eyes after receiving such a gift...
Ask your child about possible problems that occurred in the garden. It is clear that it is not at all necessary to “collect dirt” on the kindergarten workers, but if a child complains about something, it is worth paying attention to it. Naturally, children do not always express their point of view on what is happening objectively; sometimes children can openly slander the teacher (well, the child doesn’t want to go to kindergarten, because there his spoiledness and exclusivity disappear, and he does everything so that his mother takes him away from there); Sometimes children fantasize - just for the sake of fantasy. And sometimes they present what happened seemingly correctly, but let’s say, not quite adequately, that’s exactly “childish.” Therefore, it is always worth finding out the details from the teachers (not immediately blaming, but finding out).
One girl, after a “working day” in kindergarten, told her parents that “the teacher took away her lunch” today. Fortunately, the mother had a sufficient sense of humor not to immediately rush back to the group and attack the teacher - first she asked the child: “So, did she want to eat so badly?” Of course, it later turned out that the matter was different: the girl, in principle, eats very slowly (at the same time, the teachers always allowed her to take her time); but that day the child’s meal went on quite unacceptably, and the remnants of food were simply removed along with all the other dishes when it was time to go for a quiet hour...
And by the way: maybe it’s worth giving teachers (if you trust them enough) the go-ahead for some pedagogical experiments, especially if you are doing the same thing at home. Let’s say if your child doesn’t eat in kindergarten and the teacher has to force feed him, you can “allow” him and not feed him. If he doesn’t eat, it means he doesn’t want to. Let him starve, then he will eat...
When you come to pick up your child, take a closer look not only at who and how your child plays, but also at how the teacher communicates with children. You can come for your child several times “at inopportune hours” - and if sometimes the teacher’s scream is heard from behind the door, more than once or twice, and moreover, this is supported by the child’s repeated justified complaints - draw conclusions.
Naritsyn Nikolay Nikolaevich, psychotherapist, psychoanalyst
Based on materials from the site https://www.materinstvo.ru/
